I read a blog post by AnnabelCandy who wrote a guest post at problogger about having a blogging buddy. You know what? I recommend finding a twitter buddy instead. I am thankful to have found twitter and I managed to make great friends who I have the utmost respect for and be able connect with them closely. So I have some experience with having a twitter buddy instead of a blogging buddy.
This is what actually happened, a few months ago I didn’t feel like blogging at all (I am sure bloggers had that moment). So i told my friend (@glitterglitzer) on twitter about it, and her responds was “do you want me to kick you a$$” so I said sure why not? What did she do? She blogged about me on her blog and challenged me to a “blogging competition” to see who blogged more. Whoever lost needed to send gifts from their country to the winner. Sure enough being a competitive person, I didn’t like to lose so I accepted the challenge, after the challenge I had like 7 blog post and she had more than me. Actually I had more blog post on another blog but she said I didn’t read the “fine print” so I lost, but being a kind soul she sent me gifts as well because it was my birthday back then and I owe her a blog post.
In another way it was similar with the blogging buddy but having to meet her on twitter, we started out talking on DM’s and develop this great relationship up to today.
I also talk to others as well, some of them are @Terrinakamura who is so great because although she is busy, she takes her time to read my email and reply me great and thoughtful email and never fails to share with me what she thinks and always help me with decisions. @Adamsconsulting who I always talk to on twitter and DM’s who is someone I admirer and is like a big sister to me. Of course I do have offline buddies who I talk to most of the time, one of them is @alexfei who is my housemate and we had a 2 hours conversation on MSN (we’re on holiday and back in our hometown) yesterday and we talked about what we wanted to achieve in the future. Sure enough it got me motivated.
Anyway back to twitter buddies, I want to recommend everyone to have at least 2 of them. The more the better of course. The most important part about having a twitter buddy is to make sure you find someone who is willing to be there for you as a friend and wants to get to know you a little better too.
So this is why I say you need a twitter buddy.
1. They don’t know your limitations
The best thing about twitter buddies is that they don’t know your limitations. Since your friends and families know you longer than anyone else and know about your limitations. They might not support you doing something that you want because you might have failed before, and they don’t want to see you failing again. So they might suggest you not to do it. However people who don’t know you will believe that you can do it and will suggest you to do to do it.
One of the best example is me blogging. I am sure whenever you read my blog post you’ll find that I don’t have the best english written blog post. Maybe because I wasn’t paying attention in english classes. So “english” is a limitation for me and people closed to me knew that. So when they found out that I started blogging, they didn’t really support the idea and said nobody will read it because I didn’t have a good command in english. So one day I wrote about this in a blog post comment at @markwschaefer blog and his responds helped me so much. He said that although I didn’t have the best english out there, I make it up for the passion. That comment alone help me ignore all the limitations people said.
2. They never hesitate to give praises or encouragement
Although people offline will give praises, I realized that people online never hesitate to give praises or gives more praises. Especially when its something good they never hesitate to say congrats, great blog post or more. Maybe it’s in the asian culture that we have in Asia that people find it hard to praise another or they just find it hard to give praises online because they are shy? I notice people online loves to give them.
I give them too whenever I find something which I really love reading or found interesting.
3.They have more experience
Depending on who your twitter buddy are, they have different experiences compared to your peers or people that you know offline. Take me for an example. I am a 22 year old and taking my degree in marketing. If I were to talk about starting my own business in the future what will they think? Half of them will think I am crazy, another half will ignore what I say. Only the people who are close might say “go for it”.
If I were to ask someone who have done it before like my twitter buddy, who have started their business at my age. What will they say? They will tell me to go for it and might even teach me ways on doing it.
Here is one example that really happened. One day while having lecture in class, a lecturer asked if we blogged, a few of my friends said I did. So he asked me what topic do I blog about, I said “social media” and he said “It’s a heavy topic to cover”. Maybe! but with the technology of the internet, bloggers are getting younger these days. If you don’t believe be check out great blogs like @epiclaunch and @gloson.
I am not trying to say you should depend 100% on your twitter buddies. We do have lives offline. What I am trying to say here is that, sometimes when people around us tell us we can’t, doesn’t mean we can’t do it. The people we know offline might not know how to swim and tell you that swimming is dangerous, while people online knows how to swim and tells you that you should learn how to swim and start looking for a coach or a instructor to guide us offline.
So guys, do you have a twitter buddy who you spend time sharing more about you? Also you know what?
It was the encouragement and people who I met on twitter that kept this blog going for 9 months now. I want to take this opportunity to say thank you so much for those who helped me get this far. I appreciate every help.
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